Ok, so I just renewed my Goofball membership (another year). Just when I'd thought I didn't have time for it anymore, I find myself back here once again. Where have I been? Well let's just say I'd been going through an extremely nasty time with my girlfriend (now ex-girlfriend). Yes, she broke my heart. It started with me finding emails to and from some other guy and it pretty much went downhill from there. I was totally in the dark too. Why did it happen? It's not like I wasn't paying attention to her. Our sex life was (believe me here) nothing short of amazing. We spent plenty of time together. Money was never an issue. I've always been a very nice guy to her (and to all women for that matter). I've always been extemely honest about my feelings to her. But in the end, she went off with some other guy who couldn't offer her half of what I could. Nice guys finish last I guess?
So I recently started back into the dating scene. Exciting at first after being in a steady relationship for some time yes. But wow, it sure can be a little brutal too - even for a decent looking guy in a place packed with beautiful women like New York City. A good friend of mine got in touch with me recently who showed me something that actually changed my luck a little bit. It is a simple guide written by someone who has obviously spent a great deal of time thinking about and researching the subject of the psychology of women with respect to the dating scene. I know this sounds like a bad commercial but I'm telling you this stuff actually made a big difference for me - and not just out at bars, clubs, parties, etc. but even in the more average social settings. I can actually say I'm feeling pretty happy and best of all in control these days. I've included the text from one of the newsletters I recently got. Guys, tell me it doesn't make some good sense ... I've even got my friends here who run Goofball believing it's worthwhile, even though they're both married and now live vicariously through some of my stories (sorry Rob and Jay).
Double Your Dating
“The
Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably
Make With Women—
And What To Do About
It...”
Here
Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women—And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid
Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes...
By David
DeAngelo
MISTAKE
#1: Being
Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”
Have
you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted
"nice" guys?
Of
course you have.
Just
like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to
date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in
YOU.
What's
going on here?
It's
actually very simple...
Women
don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they
do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for
them.
And
guess what?
Being
nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful
ATTRACTION.
And
being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.
I
realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to
ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.
Until
you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with
women that you want.
MISTAKE
#2: Trying To
“Convince Her To Like You"
What
do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just
notinterested?
Right!
They try to "convince" the woman to feel
differently.
Well,
I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES
TO ATTRACTION!
Never,
ever, EVER.
You
cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and
reasoning".
Think
about it.
If
a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that
FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?
But
we all do it.
When
a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change
her mind.
Bad
idea. One that will never work.
MISTAKE
#3: Looking To Her
For Approval Or
Permission
In
our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us),
us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or
"permission".
Another
HORRIBLE idea.
Women
are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them...
EVER.
Don't
get me wrong here.
You
don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like
you.
But
if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and
permission for things", think again.
You
will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men
who seek their approval.
Doubt
me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want
her approval annoy her...
MISTAKE
#4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And
Gifts
How
many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and
flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as
well as you did?
If
you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.
Well
guess what?
It's
only NATURAL when this happens...
That's
right, I said NATURAL.
When
you do these things, you send a clear message:
"I don't think
you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and
affection".
Your
good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for
insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women
see this as MANIPULATION.
MISTAKE
#5: Sharing
“How You Feel” Too Early In
The Relationship With Her
Another
huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they
"feel" too early on.
Attractive
women are rare.
And
they get a LOT of attention from
men.
Most men don't realize this,
but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL
THE
An
attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are
interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of
times per month.
And
guess what?
Attractive
women have usually dated a LOT of men.
That's
right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They
know what to expect.
And
one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster
than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY
like you" after one or two dates.
This
signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her
too fast... and can't control themselves.
Don't
do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's
a much better way...
MISTAKE
#6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For
Women
Women
are VERY different from men when it comes to
ATTRACTION.
You
need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When
a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual
attraction.
But
does the same apply for women?
Do
women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else
going on?
Well,
after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that
women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than
looks.
Have
you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with
beautiful women than the other way around?
Think
about it.
Women
are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the
way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks
alone.
If
you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make
women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when
you see a hot, sexy young woman.
But
it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do
this.
And
ANY guy can learn how...
MISTAKE
#7: Thinking That It
Takes Money And Looks
One
of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even
gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested
in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys
who are a certain age.
And
sure, there are some women who are only interested in these
things.
But
MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his
looks.
There
are personality traits that attract women like a
magnet...
And
if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these
guys.
YOU
DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or
handsome.
Let
me say this again: If you know how to use
your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same
kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy
young woman.
MISTAKE
#8: Giving Away
All Of Your Power To Women
Earlier
I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or
permission.
Well,
another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to
women.
Said
differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman
wants.
Another
bad idea...
Women
are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!
MISTAKE
#9: Not Knowing
EXACTLY What To Do In Each
Type Of Situation With
Women
Now
I'm going to blow your mind...
A
woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.
Women
are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten
TIMES.
I
know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with
a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.
And
if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just
sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't
help!
And
this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...
Approaching
a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical...
everything.
If
you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up...
and LOSE EVERYTHING.
And
you KNOW it.
It
is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next
with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the
bedroom.
MISTAKE
#10: Not Getting HELP
This
is the biggest mistake of all.
This
is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with
women that they truly want.
I
know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to
ask for help.
Hey,
I've been there myself.
Let
me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with
women...
About
five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to approach,
meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted
to.
It
frustrated the hell out of me.
One
night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just
couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night... right on
the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be
successful with women and dating.
Well,
after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured
it all out.
I
can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I've
dated models, I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls
as well.
It
has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure
feeling... like I don't know how to meet women... and I might wind up
alone.
I
know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive
women.
I've
written a book on the topic, and I've done seminars on both coasts of the
United
States... and taught tens of thousands of men
all around the world.
I
Now Have A FREE, Three-Times-
A-Week Email
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...But
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Of
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Well,
that's not the case.
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