Not sure if you read the last piece my friends Jay and Rob at Goofball let me put up, but if not you probably should. Basically, I'm a guy in my prime who recently found himself suddenly back in the dating scene again after a suprisingly bad breakup. The dating scene after being in a relationship can be a bit of an adjustment to say the least. However, I've come across some information that has made my life incredibly easier. The funny thing is, it's so simple and was really there to use the whole time - I just never thought of it this way. And now, it's working for me so well (the success ratio is unreal compared to before), that I feel like a completely different (better) person.
And yes, I have to apologize again for sounding like some kind of infomercial or whatever, but I am so convinced about this approach (come on it's working for me on some pretty stuck up New York City girls!), that I've got my grade school friend Jay to let me write about it on his website. Check this out and leave me a message on my fan page or email me and let me know what you think.
Double Your Dating
How To Get A Woman's Phone Number And
Email Address Within Three Minutes Of Meeting Her
Let me start off by telling you something interesting:
I've personally stopped focusing on just getting
phone numbers. I've found that EMAIL addresses are far better (I still get
the phone number too, of course).
Let me explain.
I perfected the art of getting phone numbers a
couple of years ago.
If a woman is single, I can walk up to her and get
her number in about a minute or two (if I'm in a hurry). I found out later,
after working like a mad scientist on this that GETTING PHONE NUMBERS ALONE
DOESN'T EQUAL SUCCESS.
You see, women have many different reasons for
giving out their phone numbers. Some love the attention of having a lot of
men call them. Some like to turn guys down. Some are actually interested. But
the universal feedback that I get from men, and in my personal experience,
women act different on the phone than they do in person.
When you call a woman for the first time, she'll
often start acting stand offish or even worse, just plain rude. It's almost
like she's a different person than the one you met.
I've found that getting an EMAIL address is not only
easier, but it gets more positive responses later on. It's almost as if women
appreciate it that you've taken the time to think about what you're going to
say when you write an email to them, and they think of you more like someone
they know.
The other benefit of email is that it can be written
and answered anytime.
If you call, you have to actually reach them. But an
email can be answered anytime. And I've found that emails are answered FAR
more often than voicemail messages.
HERE'S THE HOW TO:
After I've talked to a woman for about 3 or 4
minutes, I'll often say something like "Well, it was nice meeting you.
I'm going to get back to my friends."
They usually don't know what to do, as they're used
to guys clinging to them. Most of the time, they say "It was nice
meeting you too..." Then, just as I'm turning to walk away, and we
kind of disconnect, I turn back and say "HEY! Do you have email?"
The "HEY!" is a bit surprising, and
"Do you have email" is non-threatening. In fact, I'm technically
asking her if she HAS email, not if she'll GIVE IT TO ME.
If she says "yes," I take out a pen and
paper and say "Great, write it down for me" and I have her write it
down. (This is great, as I just treat the 'yes' that they give me as a yes to
get it from them as well. And they've almost ALL gone along with it so far)
Then AS SHE'S IN THE MIDDLE OF WRITING, I say "Write your number down
there too."
When you ask for email, it's very low risk for a
woman, so she'll think "Fine, I'll do that." Most women will give
out an email address without thinking about it, because they know that they
can choose later to just not answer.
The magic of asking them to write their phone number
down WHILE they're in the middle of writing down their email is all about the
psychology of human behavior.
She's already mentally said "OK, I'll give you
my email address"... and she's in the middle of writing it down. When
you say "And just write your number down there too" it's only
NATURAL to just write it.
In other words, it's a MUCH smaller step than giving
out the phone number all by itself. It took me a LONG time to figure out this
simple move, but it works like magic! You will have women writing their phone
numbers down without even thinking twice.
Here's a great add-on to make sure you're getting a
real phone number and not a pager or voicemail:
As she's writing down her phone number I say
"Is this a number that you actually answer?" If she looks at me and
hesitates, or says that it's her "voicemail or pager number," then
I say "Look, write your real number down. It's going to be OK, I'll only call you nine times a day..." They
laugh and usually give me their real number.
Now, if she answers my first question and says
"No, I don't have email" then I bust on them and say "Well, do
you have electricity?" This is a GREAT opportunity to use humor.
Then I say "Well, OK then. I like email better,
but I'll take your regular phone number. It's so damn hard to reach people on
the phone these days."
Just realize that all you have to do is ask.
Like I said, I've tried all kinds of things. And
I've gotten hundreds of phone numbers. And I use this exact sequence every
time I talk to a woman and I want to get her phone number. I've gotten to the
point where I can often do this in a minute or two - no kidding!
Now that you know the sequence, write it down with
the words and the steps, and rehearse it in your mind over and over until you
know exactly what to say for each step and each response.
Many guys have asked me "But what do I tell her
as a reason why I want her number or email?" I've never had a woman ask
me. If you ask, and they give it, then she knows why you asked. If she
doesn't give it to you, then she also knew why you asked.
Just assume that this is the case.
If you ask every time, and you do it in a smooth,
assuming, calm way, you'll get a lot of emails and phone numbers.
Note: Carry a pen on you at all times. I prefer the
Fisher Space Pen (chrome) because it's small, classy, and women love it!
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